Ladies, this post is not being written to you, but please feel free to share it with your hubby or significant other.

Gentlemen,

I write this blog post to you as a woman, a life coach for moms who are raising children, a widow and now engaged woman, and one who has experienced the ups and downs of relationships.

In this age of social media and especially Facebook, women often feel they need to compete with other women, whether it’s creating a more extensive Pinterest account, having the “perfect” children, or just looking more together than their friends. They often share with me their feelings of competition-it frequently goes with the territory of being a woman- and the LAST thing they need is having their husband or significant other not doing anything on social media that tells this world, “This is my woman, and I am proud to be her man!”

Many men use family photos or photos of them and their wives as their profile pics. They frequently post pictures showing them and their wives doing fun things as a couple or family. Some couples even share a Facebook page where they post as a couple and as individuals.

And then there are those men who innocently or not so innocently don’t put anything about their wives on Facebook or they do it quite infrequently. True, women need to be secure in themselves as individuals, but c’mon, they need to be affirmed by their men in some way on a daily basis.

To those of you guys who have lots of female friends on Facebook, you should be making it clear that you are  happily married or spoken for and are darn proud of it.

So… based on my own personal experience and the feedback I receive from other women, I give you 5 things your wife or significant other secretly wishes you would occasionally do on Facebook. I challenge you, I dare you, and I encourage you to choose one, and do it this week!

Here you go, gents:

  1. CHANGE YOUR PROFILE PICTURE TO A PHOTO OF THE TWO OF YOU, ONE THAT SHOWs YOU HUGGING OR SMILING.
    Okay, so you want a photo of yourself that looks good. I get that. That’s why more than a few men post younger versions of themselves on social media (Yes, women do this, too.). None of us are getting any younger, so get over the aging thing. Post a recent pic, and while you’re thinking about that, why not post a cute photo of you and your wife or significant other? You don’t need to keep it there permanently. You could make a temporary change for her birthday, Mother’s Day, or your anniversary. Trust me: She will probably be ecstatic and show you more love than you’ve had in a while. You’ll touch her heart. Or how about the following?

    2. CHANGE YOUR COVER PHOTO IN THE SAME MANNER AS SUGGESTED ABOVE.
 Want to really show the love and scream, ” I love this woman!”? Switch your cover photo to one that shows the two of you engaged in some fun activity. Or be a bit creative: Take a picture of your hands (Yes, as in you and your lady holding each other’s hand), or snap a pic of that sign at the end of your driveway that reads “The Joneses.” Do anything that shows you are part of a couple. Again, this change doesn’t need to be permanent, but it can speak volumes (especially to that flirtatious woman who just doesn’t seem to get that you are married or spoken for).

   3. WRITE A RANDOM POST PRAISING YOUR WOMAN FOR SOMETHING OR TELLING HOW HAPPY SHE MAKES YOU.
Every marriage and relationship has challenges, but there are so many things you love about your wife or significant other. It’s probably a combination of the reasons you initially fell in love with her, as well as the love you have developed since being together. Why not share it publicly once in a while? Just a quick post, such as, “My beautiful wife Laurie is the BEST thing that’s ever happened to me!” or “I’m SO proud of my girlfriend Susan, who just brightens my day everyday!”

   4. IF SHE IS A BUSINESS OWNER OR IS IN SOME SORT OF SALES OR SERVICE CAREER, PROMOTE HER BUSINESS.
 She needs and wants clients, and you get help her meet some new connections through your own social media contacts. Plus, you may indirectly help increase the family income! This type of post doesn’t have to be “salesy,” just an occasional shout out here and there about what she does and why people should consider doing business with her. Be proud of her, and help her!

   5. FINALLY, POST A COUPLE PICTURES OF THE TWO OF YOU EACH MONTH.
Maybe you snapped a selfie that evening you were enjoying the fire pit. Remember that weekend trip you took a few months ago and all those photos of the two of you visiting really cool sites? Share a few of those! You need not write anything extensive or anything at all. If you do write a few words with the picture, just keep it simple, such as,” Kelli and me having fun at the music festival!” Simple.

Now, I realize this works both ways. My fiance is much better than yours truly about posting photos of us now and then, but I am making an effort to be better. I am proud of him and his accomplishments, and I treasure the wonderful times and adventures we have. Truth be told, we don’t take a lot of pictures when we are together, because we are really focused on each other and the adventure we are having. But…  it’s fun to share a little of our life with family and friends.

So, how about it men? Up for the challenge?

If you are already sharing your sweetheart with your Facebook friends, then good for you! If not, just show the love by doing one of the above five suggestions, and watch what happens.

And please feel free to comment below and share how-if at all-your little act of love made a difference.

But don’t tell her I suggested you do it. Remember: It’s her secret. Let her think you did it without any encouragement from me!